What If I Don’t Want the Divorce? Can I Stop It?

What If I Don’t Want the Divorce? Can I Stop It?

Jane (not her real name) called me in tears. I had worked with her and her husband in marital counseling for several months a year ago. “Jim just told me he wants a divorce! I did not see this coming, and I don’t know what to do! What if I don’t want to divorce! Can...
How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Separation or Divorce

How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Separation or Divorce

One of the questions I am asked most frequently is how to talk to your spouse if you want to separate or divorce. It feels frightening and overwhelming, and you want to do it in a way that won’t lead to a blow-up. I still remember when I had this talk with my ex, 27...