How to Have the “Perfect” Divorce

How to Have the “Perfect” Divorce

Worried about a bad divorce? These simple tips will help you have an almost-perfect divorce, while protecting your children and launching your family into a healthy future. 1. Don’t threaten divorce if you haven’t thought it through carefully. Be sure – either you...
What If I Don’t Want the Divorce? Can I Stop It?

What If I Don’t Want the Divorce? Can I Stop It?

Jane (not her real name) called me in tears. I had worked with her and her husband in marital counseling for several months a year ago. “Jim just told me he wants a divorce! I did not see this coming, and I don’t know what to do! What if I don’t want to divorce! Can...
What Is a Child Centered Divorce?

What Is a Child Centered Divorce?

When a divorcing couple has children, it is easy for the parents to get so caught up in their own negative emotions that they don’t focus on the needs of the children. As difficult as it might be, both parents need to set aside their own emotions and focus on the...
How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Separation or Divorce

How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Separation or Divorce

One of the questions I am asked most frequently is how to talk to your spouse if you want to separate or divorce. It feels frightening and overwhelming, and you want to do it in a way that won’t lead to a blow-up. I still remember when I had this talk with my ex, 27...
What Does It Take to Save Your Marriage From Divorce?

What Does It Take to Save Your Marriage From Divorce?

How can marital therapy help? What’s the therapist’s job? What’s yours? Marital counseling can help save your relationship or ensure that you are making the right decision if you divorce. Source: Photo by cottonbro from Pexels In my work with divorcing couples, they...