Useful Resources

 

For more information about best practices for co-parenting, this website is a useful resource:

www.helpguide.org/articles/parenting-family/co-parenting-tips-for-divorced-parents.htm

McLaren, Karla (2010). “The Language of Emotion: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You. Sounds True.”

Our Family Wizard is another co-parenting app, scheduling, and communication tool, and paid by subscription. It much more comprehensive than a shared calendar: www.ourfamilywizard.com

Gottman, John. (1999) “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert.”

Naff, Monza (2016). “Must We Say We Did Not Love?” Voices of Integrity.

Buscho, Ann. “The Best Books On Healthy Divorce And Co-Parenting”, The Shepherd.com

 

Further Reading

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Ahrons, Constance (1998). “The Good Divorce.” HarperCollinsPublishers, Inc.

Bonkowski, Sara (1998). “Tots Are Non-Divorceable.” ACTA Publications. (A workbook for parents and their children). Birth to 5 years.

Burns, Cherie (2001). “Step-Motherhood: How to Survive Without Feeling Frustrated, Left-Out or Wicked.” Times books.

Ellis, Carolyn (2012). “The 7 Pitfalls of Single Parenting, What to Avoid to Help your Children Thrive after Divorce,” iUniverse, Inc., New York.

Emery, Robert (2006). “The Truth about Children and Divorce, Dealing with the Emotions so you and your Children can Thrive.” Plume, New York.

Gadoua, Susan Pease (2010). “Stronger Day by Day, Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding After Divorce.” New Harbinger Publications, Oakland.

Hannibal, Mary Ellen (2006). “Good Parenting Through Your Divorce.” Marlowe & Company, New York.

Kalter, Neil (1990). “Growing Up With Divorce: Helping Your Child Avoid Immediate and Later Emotional Problems.” Free Press: A Division of Simon & Schuster, Inc., New York.

Lieberman, Alicia (2017). “The Emotional Life of the Toddler.” Free Press, New York

Massimo, M., Price, S. (2015). “Stepparenting: Becoming A Stepparent: A Blended Family Guide to Parenting, Raising Children, Family Relationships and Step Families.” CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform.

 

McBride, Jean (2016) “Talking to Children About Divorce: A Parent’s Guide to Healthy Communication at Each Stage of Divorce.” Althea Press.

Marston, Stephanie (1994). “The Divorced Parent: Success Strategies for Raising Your Children After Separation.” Morrow.

Neuman, Gary M. (1999). “Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way.” Random House, New York.

Oddenion, Michael (1995). “Putting Kids First: Walking Away From a Marriage Without Walking Over the Kids.” Family Connections.

Ricci, Isolina (1997). “Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child.” Fireside of Simon & Schuster, Inc., New York.

Ricci, Isolina (2006). “Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids.” Fireside of Simon & Schuster, Inc., New York.

Schneider, M., Zuckerberg, J. (1996). “Difficult Questions Kids Ask (and are too afraid to ask) About Divorce.” Simon and Schuster, New York.

Siegel, D., Bryson, T. (2012). “The Whole-Brain Child, 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind.” Delacorte Press, New York

Wolfelt, A., Maloney, R. 2011). “Healing A Child’s Heart After Divorce, 100 Practical Ideas for Families Friends and Caregivers, Companion.” Fort Collins.

 

Preschool: (4-6-year-olds)

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Abercrombie, Barbara (1995). “Charlie Anderson.” Simon & Schuster Children’s Publishing, New York.

Best, Carl (2000). “Taxi Taxi.” Little, Brown. (Spanish words and phrases are sprinkled throughout this realistic picture of life in a bilingual, divorced family).

Brown, L., and Brown, M. (1988) “Dinosaurs Divorce.” Little, Brown.

Cain, Barbara (2001). “Double-Dip Feelings: Stories to Help Children Understand Emotions.” Magination Press.

Caines, Jeannette (1977). “Daddy.” Harper and Row.

Christiansen, C.B. (1995). “My Mother’s House, My Father’s House.” Atheneum/Macmillan, New York.

Helmering, Doris (1981). “I Have Two Families.” Abingdon, Nashville.

Hoffman, Mary (2014). “Boundless Grace.” Dial Books

Lansky, Vicki. (1998) “It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear.” Book Peddlers. (Available in English and Spanish).

Moore-Mallinos, Jennifer (2006). “Daddy’s Getting Married.” Barron’s, New York.

Ranson, Jeanie Franz (2000). “I Don’t Want to Talk About It.” Magination Press.

Willhoite, Michael (2008). “Daddy’s Roommate.” Horn Book, Inc.

Wyeth, Sharon Dennis (1994). “Always My Dad.” Ages 4-8.

 

Elementary School: (7-9-year-olds)

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Caseley, Judith (1995). “Priscilla Twice.” Greenwillow Books.

Clearly, B., Zelinsky, P. (2000). “Dear Mr. Henshaw.” Avon Co.

Cruise, Robin (1998). “The Top Secret Journal of Fiona Claire Jardin.” Harcourt Brace, San Diego.

Karst, Patrice (2018). “The Invisible String.” DeVorss & Company, Camarillo, CA.

Johnston, J.F. Breuning, K., Garrity C., & Baris, M. (1997). “Through the Eyes of Children: Healing Stories for Children of Divorce.” The Free Press.

Phillipg, Erica (1996). “Megan’s Two Houses.” Dove Kids, 1996

Menenfex-Aponte, Emily (2014). “When Mom and Dad Divorce, A Kid’s Resource.” Abbey Place, St. Meinrad, IN.

Park, Barbara (2002). “Don’t Make Me Smile.” Bullseye. Ages 8-12.

Paulsen, Gary (2017). “Hatchet.” Noguery Caralt Editores, S.A. (In Spanish: El Hacha.)

Pickhardt, C.E. (1997). “The Case of the Scary Divorce.” Ages 9-12.)

Rubin, Judith Aron (2002). “My Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Anymore.” Magination Press, Washington, D.C.

Schab, Lisa (2008). “The Divorce Workbook for Children, Helping Kids to Overcome Difficult Family Changes and Grow up Happy.” New Harbinger Publishing, Oakland.

Stinson, Katherine (2007). “Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Anymore.” Annick Press, New York.

Tax, Meredith (2013). “Families.” Little, Brown.

 

Preteen and Teenage:

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Holyoke, N., Nash S. American Girl Library (1999) Help! “A Girl’s Guide to Divorce and Stepfamilies.” Pleasant Company Publications, Wisconsin.

Blume, Judy (1986). “It’s Not the End of the World.” Dell, New York.

Danzier, Paula (2007). “The Divorce Express.” Paper Star. Ages 12-15.

Evans, Maria D. (2000) “This is Me and My Two Families.” Magination Press.

 

Ford, M., et al. (2006) “My Parents Are Divorced, Too.” Magination Press Ages 8-12.

Goldman, Katie (1982). “In the Wings.” Dial, New York.

Klein, Norma (1980). “Breaking Up: A Novel.” Knopf Books, New York, 1980.

Krementz, Jill (1988). “How It Feels When Parents Divorce.” Alfred A. Knopf, New York.

Schab LCSW, Lisa (2008). “The Divorce Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Move Beyond the Break-Up.” New Harbinger Publishing, Oakland.

Voight, Cynthia (2012). “A Solitary Blue.” Athenium.

 

Movies and TV:

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“Split” is a powerful movie which features a number of children, aged 6-12, talking about the effects of their parents’ divorce. Whether you watch it with your children or not, you will be moved and it will help you support your children’s experience: www.splitfilm.org

There are many movies and books that can stimulate discussions with your children about divorce. I recommend that you preview them before sharing with your children, as some may not be age-appropriate. You can find lists of them at: www.commonsensemedia.org/lists/movies-to-help-kids-understand-divorce

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