How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Separation or Divorce

One of the questions I am asked most frequently is how to talk to your spouse if you want to separate or divorce. It feels frightening and overwhelming, and you want to do it in a way that won’t lead to a blow-up. I still remember when I had this talk with my...

What Does It Take to Save Your Marriage From Divorce?

How can marital therapy help? What’s the therapist’s job? What’s yours? Marital counseling can help save your relationship or ensure that you are making the right decision if you divorce. Source: Photo by cottonbro from Pexels In my work...

Seven Reasons People Stay in an Unhappy Marriage

Feel stuck in a bad marriage? Can’t decide to divorce? Here are the most common reasons. Have you been thinking about divorce for a very long time?  Are you caught in a painful loop of indecision. “Should I leave? I don’t know if I can (or should) do it.“ Why is...

Relationships in Quarantine: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

In an earlier post, I wrote about the psychological short- and long-term effects of quarantine. Now that we are in a longer-term quarantine, you are probably seeing how these reactions are affecting your relationships, especially your marital relationship. You may...

How Nesting Can Ease Your Separation or Divorce – Part 2

Ask Yourself if Nesting Makes Sense for Your Family  1. Will you and your spouse remain in the area or city?  Nesting works best when both of you are available for your “on duty” parenting time. 2. Ask yourself if you can set aside your own comfort and prioritize the...

How Nesting Can Ease Your Separation or Divorce – Part 1

Adapted from my post on Psychology Today, March 20, 2019 What do I mean by “Nesting”? Nesting families keep the children in the family home while the parents rotate in and out to care for them. The “on-duty” parent stays in the home with the children while the...