Is Birdnesting the New Norm?

Is Birdnesting the New Norm?

More and more often, clients are contacting me to help with setting up successful nesting, or birdnesting arrangements. I am glad that more people know about nesting now because a successful nesting agreement can stabilize your family and keep your children’s lives...
How is a “Gray Divorce” Different From Other Divorces?

How is a “Gray Divorce” Different From Other Divorces?

Gray divorce is rising. There are big differences, emotionally and financially. Key Points The divorce rate of people over 50 is increasing, even while the overall divorce rate is declining. Some decide to divorce when they’re ready to trade the stability of...
What Do I Do If My Spouse Doesn’t Want To Divorce?

What Do I Do If My Spouse Doesn’t Want To Divorce?

Many of my clients have come to me with this situation. One spouse has decided to divorce and the other spouse doesn’t want to. Why does this happen and what can you do about it? It is unusual for both spouses to arrive at the decision to divorce together. Usually,...
Signs That Your Partner May Want a Divorce

Signs That Your Partner May Want a Divorce

Lisa (not her real name) tells me, “My parents wondered why we aren’t going out together like we used to. They used to babysit for us every week, but it has been months now. I know something is wrong, but I can’t figure it out. We just aren’t happy; we aren’t having...
Divorce is a Death. When Will The Grieving End?

Divorce is a Death. When Will The Grieving End?

The grief Maria (not her actual name) experienced when her divorce was over brought her to therapy. When she arrived for her first session, she was overwhelmed. Her eyes were red from crying, and she held a wet tissue in her hand. “Where do I start?” She asked. There...
Do Trial Separations Ever Work?

Do Trial Separations Ever Work?

Do trial separations work? Can a relationship benefit from taking a break? It all comes down to outlining clear intentions, communication, and goals. The Gottman Institute recommends the following for a trial separation:   Be specific, honest, and vulnerable...