Tips to Help Your Kids Enjoy the Holiday During Your Divorce

Tips to Help Your Kids Enjoy the Holiday During Your Divorce

Acknowledge the loss If this is the first time your family is not together for Christmas, Hanukkah, or other winter holidays, your kids will feel a sense of loss. They will grieve the loss of the traditions they enjoyed in the past. In addition, they make feel caught...
Surviving the Holidays Without Your Kids

Surviving the Holidays Without Your Kids

Holidays without your kids during divorce feels awful. Here are four tips. Published previously on psychologytoday.com Oct 01, 2019 I don’t know how I will survive Thanksgiving this year. It’s the first time I won’t be with my kids. My soon-to-be-ex is taking the kids...
Emotional Attachment to a House

Emotional Attachment to a House

A house is just a building, but a home is filled with hopes, dreams, and memories.  The attachment to the home can be almost as strong as an attachment to a living being.  The attachment can be long-term – you’ve built a relationship with your home as you...
How to Tell Your Kids You’re Getting a Separation or Divorce

How to Tell Your Kids You’re Getting a Separation or Divorce

It’s important to talk to your kids before they hear it from someone else. One of the first questions I am asked is how to talk to your kids about your upcoming separation of divorce. It is one of the most difficult, painful conversations you’ll ever face.  When...
Co-Parenting vs. Parallel Parenting

Co-Parenting vs. Parallel Parenting

Co-Parenting — What does that mean? How can I co-parent with someone who has betrayed me? How do you co-parent after a divorce when we couldn’t parent well while we were married? I don’t even want to parent with him/her anymore! You’re getting divorced and your...
Ten Reasons to Hate Your Ex Forever

Ten Reasons to Hate Your Ex Forever

But is it worth the cost? The divorce is done. Now what? Source: Pixabay/Pexels You have just gone through the biggest crisis of your life, your divorce. It was costly, scary and miserable, and you thought it would never end. In fact, maybe it still isn’t finished....
Why Would Anyone Need a Divorce Coach?

Why Would Anyone Need a Divorce Coach?

What is a Divorce Coach? How do I know if I need one? How Can a Coach Help Me? In this post, you will learn about what Divorce Coaches do, why they are so helpful, and how to find one in your area. Divorces are complicated, require a lot of decision-making, and they...
My Parents’ Divorce War Trained Me to Be a Therapist!

My Parents’ Divorce War Trained Me to Be a Therapist!

My story is a lesson for parents and what NOT to do during divorce. We all do what we do for a reason, and the reason is often connected to our childhood. For me, I was drawn to divorce work because I wanted to change the way people divorce for the sake of their...
How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Separation or Divorce

How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Separation or Divorce

One of the questions I am asked most frequently is how to talk to your spouse if you want to separate or divorce. It feels frightening and overwhelming, and you want to do it in a way that won’t lead to a blow-up. I still remember when I had this talk with my ex, 27...
What Does It Take to Save Your Marriage From Divorce?

What Does It Take to Save Your Marriage From Divorce?

How can marital therapy help? What’s the therapist’s job? What’s yours? Marital counseling can help save your relationship or ensure that you are making the right decision if you divorce. Source: Photo by cottonbro from Pexels In my work with divorcing couples, they...