Courtney came to my office after her husband had an affair. She wanted counseling to help her decide whether to forgive or divorce him. She was concerned about her three young children and worried about being able to support herself financially. She’d loved being a...
When a divorcing couple has children, it is easy for the parents to get so caught up in their own negative emotions that they don’t focus on the needs of the children. As difficult as it might be, both parents need to set aside their own emotions and focus on the...
Acknowledge the loss If this is the first time your family is not together for Christmas, Hanukkah, or other winter holidays, your kids will feel a sense of loss. They will grieve the loss of the traditions they enjoyed in the past. In addition, they make feel caught...
Holidays without your kids during divorce feels awful. Here are four tips. Published previously on psychologytoday.com Oct 01, 2019 I don’t know how I will survive Thanksgiving this year. It’s the first time I won’t be with my kids. My soon-to-be-ex is taking the kids...
A house is just a building, but a home is filled with hopes, dreams, and memories. The attachment to the home can be almost as strong as an attachment to a living being. The attachment can be long-term – you’ve built a relationship with your home as you...
It’s important to talk to your kids before they hear it from someone else. One of the first questions I am asked is how to talk to your kids about your upcoming separation of divorce. It is one of the most difficult, painful conversations you’ll ever face. When...
Co-Parenting — What does that mean? How can I co-parent with someone who has betrayed me? How do you co-parent after a divorce when we couldn’t parent well while we were married? I don’t even want to parent with him/her anymore! You’re getting divorced and your...
But is it worth the cost? The divorce is done. Now what? Source: Pixabay/Pexels You have just gone through the biggest crisis of your life, your divorce. It was costly, scary and miserable, and you thought it would never end. In fact, maybe it still isn’t finished....
What is a Divorce Coach? How do I know if I need one? How Can a Coach Help Me? In this post, you will learn about what Divorce Coaches do, why they are so helpful, and how to find one in your area. Divorces are complicated, require a lot of decision-making, and they...
My story is a lesson for parents and what NOT to do during divorce. We all do what we do for a reason, and the reason is often connected to our childhood. For me, I was drawn to divorce work because I wanted to change the way people divorce for the sake of their...