What If I Don’t Want the Divorce? Can I Stop It?

What If I Don’t Want the Divorce? Can I Stop It?

Jane (not her real name) called me in tears. I had worked with her and her husband in marital counseling for several months a year ago. “Jim just told me he wants a divorce! I did not see this coming, and I don’t know what to do! What if I don’t want to divorce! Can...
Is Your Marriage Doomed After an Affair?

Is Your Marriage Doomed After an Affair?

Courtney came to my office after her husband had an affair. She wanted counseling to help her decide whether to forgive or divorce him. She was concerned about her three young children and worried about being able to support herself financially. She’d loved being a...
Surviving the Holidays Without Your Kids

Surviving the Holidays Without Your Kids

Holidays without your kids during divorce feels awful. Here are four tips. Published previously on psychologytoday.com Oct 01, 2019 I don’t know how I will survive Thanksgiving this year. It’s the first time I won’t be with my kids. My soon-to-be-ex is taking the kids...
Emotional Attachment to a House

Emotional Attachment to a House

A house is just a building, but a home is filled with hopes, dreams, and memories.  The attachment to the home can be almost as strong as an attachment to a living being.  The attachment can be long-term – you’ve built a relationship with your home as you...
How to Tell Your Kids You’re Getting a Separation or Divorce

How to Tell Your Kids You’re Getting a Separation or Divorce

It’s important to talk to your kids before they hear it from someone else. One of the first questions I am asked is how to talk to your kids about your upcoming separation of divorce. It is one of the most difficult, painful conversations you’ll ever face.  When...