About Dr. Buscho

Dr. Ann Buscho with book BirdnestingLet me introduce myself:

I am a licensed psychologist and have worked with children and families in a private practice in Marin County, California for three decades. Now my practice is all things related to divorce, keeping families out of court, co-parenting after divorce, collaborative divorce, helping divorcing parents create parenting plans, and divorce coaching.

Working with children, I quickly found that many were suffering from their parents’ divorce. They were carrying the symptoms of the trauma of the divorce for the whole family. My mission is to help parents divorce respectfully in order to protect their children.

Divorce can be traumatic, and my interest in families and trauma led me to co-found a treatment program for emergency responders and their spouses or partners, First Responder Support Network.



I wrote The Parent’s Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce to help you protect your children during a separation or divorce by creating a safe “nest” for your family.

When you are “birdnesting,” also known simply as “nesting,” your children stay in the home full time, which gives them more time to adapt to changes in your family. Throughout the process, you and your partner take turns being “on duty” with your children. While separated, you and your spouse continue to work together to create a home that is safe, stable, and loving.  This arrangement also gives you time to consider the future of your marriage.  You may work on reconciliation or lay the foundation for a more amicable divorce while your children remain safe and secure in their “nest.”

About Dr. BuschoI’m advocating for families whether you divorce or not. When my ex-husband and I divorced in the early 1990s, we nested. During this emotional upheaval, we had to figure out our co-parenting, finances for the family, and how to manage the home, while making decisions about our relationship. We made some mistakes as we figured out what worked and what did not. I’ve combined our personal experience with three decades working as a therapist for divorcing families. Now, I am making this information available to you.

My hope is that this book will help you make the transition to a new family structure in a way that protects your children and is healing for your whole family. The Parent’s Guide to Birdnesting will guide you every step of the way so that you can create a successful nesting plan for your family.

More about Me:

My parents’ divorce was long and painful for everyone. But divorce doesn’t have to be viewed as a failure, or a “broken home.” That is why I say my mission is to help parents divorce respectfully, and to stay out of court, in order to protect their children.

I work with family law professionals as a divorce coach, in a specialty called Collaborative Divorce. During the divorce process the parents and I work together to create a unique parenting plan for the family. Later, parents might come back for co-parenting support, which helps minimize friction between them.

When I am not in the office I enjoy my children, grandchildren, stepchildren, cooking, hiking, quilting, and writing for Psychology Today.  I am working on another book too!

I remarried many years ago. My husband is a retired police officer, and now a psychologist who works with emergency responders.



Dr. Ann Buscho is an experienced, compassionate and dynamic speaker who is available for interviews and public speaking engagements. Please contact her for more information and to further discuss your needs.

To see her other works, such as her new and upcoming memoir How Will We Know When She is Dead?, visit here

"Dr. Buscho’s career has always focused on helping families avoid the trauma of conflict and adversarial processes. She has been a leader in advocating a revolutionary approach to meeting these challenges. By establishing a “nesting” period, a time where children stay in the home while parents rotate in and out, the stress on the family is greatly reduced. Until now, there has been no handbook or resource to help parents or professionals implement the nesting process. Dr. Buscho’s book is an extraordinary resource that has been missing in the current writings on children and divorce—and a must-read for families considering a separation or divorce process. Like a trusted friend, she helps parents find a path through the minefield of divorce toward healing, recovery, and peaceful co-parenting.”

~Madeline Levine, Ph.D., author of the New York Times bestsellers,
The Price of Privilege, Teach Your Children Well and
Ready or Not: Preparing Our Kids to Thrive in an Uncertain and Rapidly Changing World